Mid-November HHWP Goal Update

Mid-Nov. HHWP Update (+6 Ways To Get Goals Back On Track)

It’s the middle of November already! I can hardly believe it, but that means that it’s time for my mid-month Happy.Healthy.Whole Project (HHWP) update!

If you’re just joining me, check out what the HHWP is all about, and how to start your own HHWP!

If you need, you can check out my November HHWP goals here. Alright, let’s jump in and see how things have been going for me this month.

HHWP Mid-Month Update: A Rough Start To The Month

I’ve got to admit that the first part of this month has not at all gone as planned. There were two big events that threw me off track.

The 2020 Presidential Election

I have had a ton of anxiety surrounding the November 3rd presidential election (here in the United States) which has been really drawing itself out. 

I knew that I was going to be anxious during this time, but I guess I wasn’t fully prepared for the scope of it. For days I found myself really struggling to focus, and that really held me back from being as productive as I would like to be. 

Knowing myself well, I knew that the best thing to do for my own sanity was to step away from social media, and set boundaries for my news intake. 

A Covid-19 Scare

One of my goals this month was to finally get back to see my family. I have a niece that is already 7 months old and I hadn’t got to meet her yet. I also missed my dad’s 60th birthday. 

And they way the covid-19 cases have been going here in the United States, I knew I wasn’t going to be able to make it home for the holidays since things are getting worse and worse.

So I weighed the risks, and I decided to make a trip home while I could. But this too has caused me a lot of anxiety. 

Things got complicated when my cousin’s mother-in-law tested positive for covid-19 after my sister and I had seen our cousin. 

We weren’t sure if our cousin had covid-19 or not, so when we heard we immediately started a quarantine until 4 days later when we heard that she and her family had tested negative (thank goodness!) And we weren’t actually exposed.

This scare unfortunately caused me to have to cancel my original flight and then reschedule it again three days later. 

Then because I changed my flight, I also had to change my pre-travel covid-19 testing, as well as recertify my flights with the state of Hawaii. Between this and actually finding a testing site that was willing to test travelers AND had the right type of tests… I again missed out on a lot of productivity.

What Didn’t Go So Well

To be completely honest, a lot of my goals have not gone as planned for the first part of this month.

I wasn’t able to attend my regular, weekly, physical therapy appointments because of the travel. And I really didn’t do a good job of keeping up with my exercises at my sister’s house.

I also did not study one hour per day for my certification exam while at my sister’s. Honestly, I just wanted to soak up all the family time possible since I have no idea when it’ll be possible again.

My social media posting has also fallen by the wayside, with all of my anxiety about the election and trying to distance myself from social media during that time. 

What Did Go Well

Throughout all of the craziness I have been able to stick to my blog post publishing schedule which I am proud of. 

I did apply (and got accepted for!) three affiliate programs which I am really excited about!

I also planned out my posts all the way up to the New Year which I am pretty stoked about! I’ve never scheduled posts that far in advance so that’s a big win for me.

And of course I was able to stick to my goals in the category of “strengthening relationships” which were to visit home and contact friends and family at least twice a month. I got to meet my little niece for the first time, and I’ve got to say, I’m in love!

Picture of me and my Niece.
Baby Rowy & Auntie Riss.

How I Plan To Turn Things Around In The Second Half Of November

Because I live on one of the outer islands in the state of Hawaii, our travel precautions are rather extensive. You must get a Covid-19 test within 3 days of flying to the Hawaiian Islands. But the labs are so overloaded that the test results don’t come back before you fly.

So they recommend quarantining when you get back to Hawaii for 5-7 days, then taking another Covid-19 test, and staying in quarantine until test results are received (which has been taking another 2-3 days on average, or so I’m told.)

My partner did not travel with me, so I will need to quarantine in one of our extra bedrooms out of an “abundance of caution” as they say.

So I will be locked up in a single room of my house for somewhere between 7 to 14 days. I am not at all excited about that, but… it does provide a fantastic opportunity to catch up on my November goals.

Things I plan to work on during my quarantine:

So while I’m not happy to have to be away from my partner longer, or being locked in a hot and steamy spare bedroom without air conditioning (it’s still soooo hot and muggy in Hawaii!), the silver lining is that I think I will be so bored that I’ll have no choice but to be super productive! 

6 Ways To Get Your Goals Back On Track After A Rough Patch

People fail to stick to their goals for all types of reasons but, one of the most common reasons I see is that they make a little slip-up, or they have a bad week, or even a few weeks as I just did… and then they quit. 

Instead of trying to problem-solve and move forward, they just give up. Usually they tell themselves they’ll start again when things calm down, become less stressful, or at the beginning of the month or a new year. 

The problem is, they usually don’t ever start again. So, I thought I’d share a few tips about how I avoid quitting and get back on track after I’ve had a rough time of my goals.

Be Kind To Yourself

It’s hard to say what is more difficult – changing habits, or these times we are currently living in. 

Both are hard, together it is even harder – far from impossible mind you, but not easy by any means.

So take that into account. Don’t be your worst enemy. Beating yourself up about it doesn’t do any good.

Look At The Big Picture

Sometimes, things come up that we have no control over. And, sometimes those things may be more important than goals – at least at the moment. 

For example, I decided that spending time with my family while I was home (for probably the last time in who knows how long…) was more important than it was to keep up with my social media posting for the blog.

Same thing with decreasing my social media exposure during the election – I decided my mental health was more important than keeping up with my daily social media posting etc. 

Now I’m not saying this can happen all the time. But sometimes it will happen, and that’s okay. You don’t need to quit over it, just do what you need to do and then get back to your goals as soon as you can.

Be Realistic

People often have this idea in their head that they must be perfect on their habits, or else they should just quit. This is called all-or-nothing thinking. It’s that “go big or go home” mentality, but this is not realistic.

Instead, admit right up front that you are not perfect and you will hit bumps and slip-up. By having this more realistic expectation, you will be much less rattled when you do have a little slip-up, and then be able to persist through it.

Use Failure As A Learning Opportunity

When you do make a mistake or fall off the wagon, use it as a learning opportunity. Figure out where things went wrong, and make sure you don’t make the same mistake twice.

Get Back On The Horse

When you make a mistake, it’s best to get right back on the horse as soon as possible. Don’t wait to start fresh again next month or year or whatever – just pick up where you left off.

Change The Plan

Now this may not always be the case, but If your plan is not working, ditch it and make a better one. 

I know, I know – no one likes to do that. I am one of the most stubborn people there is. But, I have learned through lots of personal struggle and strife that it’s better to throw out the plan than the goal.

So if the plan is no longer serving you, throw it out! Sacrifice it for the greater good – the chance to actually stick to and achieve your goal.

Conclusion

So all in all, it’s been a bumpy start to the month, but I am pretty confident that I will be able to turn it around.

My anxiety about the election is starting to subside some now that the election chaos is winding down a bit. And I arrived back in Hawaii just last night and started my quarantine, so the travel anxiety is calming down a bit as well.

I am feeling refreshed and energized by the time I spent with my family, and I am ready to get down to work and get my goals back on track!

Stay tuned in the coming days and weeks for the release of my Happy.Healthy.Whole Workbook & Planner, and more updates on my HHWP!

Until next time,

~Clarissa

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Author: clarissa.cabbage

Clarissa is a teacher, a coach, and an avid adventurer! Armed with a master's degree in Exercise and Wellness, she is on a mission to teach people how to build healthier habits that support the adventurous lifestyle of their dreams. There is nothing Clarissa is more passionate about than helping people get active and live their lives to the fullest!

26 Replies to “Mid-Nov. HHWP Update (+6 Ways To Get Goals Back On Track)

  1. I’m glad things are starting to turn around! I totally feel you on the first week of November being super stressful- I feel like it took a toll on my entire body. It’s really great to read how you see the positive in each situation and you are able to get through it knowing that there was an up-side. Great read!

    1. Awww thank you Sophie! I did notice that the overall vibe that first week of November was very tense. I think for a lot of people like me it was the election. I saw so many non-Americans expressing anxiety about it on social media as well!

      Thanks so much for the kind words and stopping by for a read!

  2. First off, I’m glad you’re okay. That is so scary to go through. I’m sorry that not a lot went well, but I’m happy to hear that you’re going to pick you’re self back up.

    I like how you said we should be kind to ourselves, because I feel like we criticize ourselves the most when things go wrong.

    Can’t wait to read more !

    1. Thank you Seriah! I used to be very hard on myself and it took me way longer than it should have to realize that it didn’t do me any good. 😂🤷‍♀️ Now that I’m older is suppose I am a little wiser.

      Hopefully I’ll have better news to report at the end of the month. Thanks for following along!

  3. It is so important that we can acknowledge that sometimes life gets in the way of our goals and that it is OK. Having a solid plan like you have to get back on to it is great. Well done and thanks for sharing, We all need a reminder from time to time that it is OK when things don’t go as planned x x

    1. Thanks Claire! I’m glad you found this post to be a useful reminder. I think having realistic expectations when we go into a new habit really helps us bounce back when we do hit a bump in the road. Thanks for reading!

  4. Your positive attitude is so inspiring! Especially with all you’ve been through in such a short span of time, but it’s amazing how you were able to push through despite anxiety. And it’s lovely to hear things are getting better after the rough patch. Well done with sticking to your blog schedule, that’s not at all easy to. Also, your niece is adorable, what a cute photo!

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    1. Awwww thanks so much Anika, I love her! She’s such a fun, happy, little baby. I am so glad that I was finally able to go meet her especially before she becomes mobile. I wanted to get my hugs and kisses in before she could have run away from me. 😂

  5. You have shared some wonderful tips for achieving our goals even when we are struggling. Thanks for sharing your encounters, struggles, thoughts, and insights during these tough times. I am glad that despite all odds, you did visit your family. Love the photo of baby Rowy and aunite Riss.

    1. Thank you Sara! It was a hard decision since travel is so risky nowadays. But It looked like things were about to get much worse so I decided I better go while I can in the short window that I had. In the end I really am glad that I was able to meet my niece and visit my family, Even with all the crazy stuff that came with. It was definitely worth it and I can still get back on track before the end of the month. Thank you so much for reading!

  6. I think knowing how to successfully handle things when they don’t go your way is as important as achieving what you want the first time round. Thank you for sharing this update x

    1. I absolutely agree Eleanor. I feel like knowing these things prevented me from panicking when things didn’t go the way I planned and helped me be resilient and recover rather than quit. Thanks so much for following my journey and stopping by to give this a read!

    1. Awww thank you so much Rosie! That is my hope that this post will help other people stay on track with their goals and be resilient even if things don’t go as planned. I know a lot about goals and forming habits but even that knowledge doesn’t protect me from unexpected things happening and throwing off my routine. I hope that helps people set realistic expectations for themselves so they can be resilient when things don’t go as they planned either. Thank you for your support on my journey!

  7. You have an amazing attitude! Although you had a bumpy month and things didn’t go quite as planned, you still managed to find the silver lining and stay positive. You didn’t give up, but instead plotted your course forward. You are very inspiring! Thank you for sharing your adventures!

    1. Awww thanks so much Tiffany! I have come a very long way from the person I used to be in the last 5 years or so. I really hate to think how that old me would have handled all of this injury, unemployment, and lockdown stuff. I hope that I will be able to help others make similar transitions. Thank you so much for your support and following along with my journey!

    1. Thank you Jaya, I absolutely agree! It is easier said than done of course, like most things are, but a positive and resilient mindset go such a long way! Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to leave a comment!

  8. I live in Denmark, but as an American, I was anxious about the election too. I’m sorry you had a covid-19 scare, but it’s great that you weren’t exposed.
    Even though some of your goals didn’t go as planned, I think it was nice that you got to visit your family & see your niece! It’s also great that you stuck to your blogging schedule!
    I’m also sorry you have to quarantine now, but I hope you can use that time to catch up on your goals.

    1. Thank you so much Karalee! Thank you for the kind words. The election and covid scare we’re definitely a bit nerve-racking, but absolutely do think that the quarantine will give me a good opportunity to catch up and maybe even get ahead on some of those goals.

      Denmark? That sounds amazing! I always thought it would be great to visit there. I often wondered in the past few weeks how other countries were viewing our election here. I imagined they thought it was quite the circus, as many of us did. Thank you for stopping by and checking out my blog. I am looking forward to checking out yours and hope to hear about your life and experiences in Denmark!

  9. Sounds like a lot of unexpected things have come up for you this month. I’m glad to see that you are focusing on the positives and finally got to meet your niece. And congrats on scheduling out that far!

    1. Thank you Brooke! Despite all the stress and craziness, I am without a doubt, happy that I decided to go back and see my family while I could. It was so amazing getting to meet my little niece for the first time – she is such a little bundle of joy!

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